I am writing at the late hours because I am having an explosion of thought though my head that I do not really want to talk to anyone about because the topic is so vast. I’m pretty much an open book when I blog so the following is not for the weak-hearted and easily offended individuals.
After some long thinking I’ve come to the conclusion I might in fact be a prude.
Long story short my boyfriend and I were having sex and the condom broke, it completely broke. I am not on any birth control and I am beyond worried. I am so worried my brain entirely shut down and my train of thought is as blank white as it can get, I am speechless. Perhaps my brain is moving so quickly that I ran through all thoughts pertaining to the possibility of being pregnant that I exploded internally. Right now I am calm and apathetic, just as I was when I found out.
This isn’t the first time I worried, in all honesty to the shock is not as effective as it could be. It could be that I am over thinking and scaring myself shitless again, and again. I think I am a prude because in all honesty I do not want to have sex anymore; which in turn, would kill my boyfriend. I don’t like the fear of knowing where the person I am with has been and where those people came from ect I just don’t want to be tracking stuff in. Also, I don’t like the fear or thinking of being pregnant or the possibility of. I don’t like this life surrounded with pills, shots and being filled with this paranoia of pregnancy prevention. I feel that I have officially have been bound.
My boyfriend wants me to take the morning after pill tomorrow and it is honestly against all my beliefs (non-religious). I am scared because I am reading all these terrible side effects people are going though who originally had perfect health are now cripple due to severe pains. This makes me so pissed off because I have just fixed my body, everything and anything is fixed. I have no menstrual pain or discomfort, no heavy of severely irregular cycles. I am normal at this point; everything except my acne but perhaps that will go away in time. The fact that I am going to take a hormone pill that is going to flip my body upside-down and that I have to hope and pray for the best and that is all I have. Nothing.
Nothing can be said about it nothing can be done about this, I feel like I have almost been muted but what else can I do? I am putting my future down on this stupid pill. I hope it works, I hope I will not be in pain, I hope I will actually have a decent cycle after this. I hope that I will not be scarred for life. I hope my parents never find out. I hope I hope I hope, damnit. Hope with no structure is all I am riding on now. It makes me mad that the future is fuzzy at the moment and I can’t see my clear path anymore. I hate more than anything being in a gamble that shows no luck. This is a game of chance, and the only thing I am used to is winning.
I’ve never lost anything in my life; I’ve always come out on top. Perhaps it will just be nothing and I have nothing to worry about but again, I don’t know. For the first time in my life I don’t know what to say, I don’t know what to do. I can’t even panic. I can’t even talk to anyone. It’s not that have no one; I just don’t want to talk, at all.
Why am I so scared, what is this fear and where does it come from? This fear was created when I had a dream for myself. My dream was to be a well accomplished woman with a degree of some sort who is stable in her personal life and career. I wanted to be secure emotionally and financially. I wanted to chase all the things that I desired when I was growing up that I never had; the freedom to be expressive, independent and strong. I want to dance, play piano and be free in my creative and expressive thought. For so many years I felt suppressed in the confines of my house and the fact that was starting to attain a glimpse of what it is like to be more of the person who I wanted to be, who I was meant to be. I see this as my desired pathway in life, then, there is the exact opposite of this; the division between girl and woman.
Women are independent, girls are dependant (oh how annoying and dysfunctional they are). I didn’t want to be everything that these “girls” are. Girls do not have their own self-identities and spend most of their time leaching off of their boyfriend of the moment, like chameleons they change rapidly. They are constantly seeking their identity though someone else. They do not have their own thoughts, opinions and beliefs for the most part, they don’t think and they usually have their life dictated by how their boyfriend tells them to be. Their dreams and goals are limited to finding a good guy, getting married and having a baby. THE END. I never wanted to be this type of person and I see it so commonly around me. I can’t understand how someone can limit themselves to that mind-set. They do not have any higher hopes for themselves other than to be a mother with no other special talents, hobbies or educational background that can give them edge.
Don’t these people think that if their significant other leaves, or heaven forbid that they die a terrible and unfortunate death that they have something they can fall back on? I would like to hope they wouldn’t go into something like fast food to support the children until they are grown because that is illogical.
Anyways, back to the main point. The core of what makes me so mad about getting pregnant at a young age that it will hinder my future, guaranteed. If I think going to work and school is hard enough I can’t begin to fathom that I would come home from complete mental and physical exhaustion to raise my baby. The worst part of it is if I am pregnant then I would automatically be poor which I don’t want more than anything in the world and I would shoot myself in the leg for everyday that I am on welfare. How can I financially support another person when I would barely be in a position to support myself?
I told my boyfriend that I am going to do one of two things if I am pregnant.
I could take the passive route and just jump off a bridge and end my life. I’m not afraid of death.
The harder route is struggling night and day juggling school, work, baby and my last attempt at a social life. If you were in my brain right now you have no idea how unappealing this sounds. I am already busting my ass as it is and the fact I have to take what I am doing now and to kick it into high gear is beyond me because I am already on overdrive.
I recall that in my most difficult times of distress I remember a quote I made up “the struggles in life are the ones that make life worth living for” this is all I am holding on to now.
I’ve just gambled tonight and all I hope lady luck is on my side, at least one last time.
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