February 22, 2011

• You Cost Me

  Today I was working and talking to one of my fellow co-workers about our love lives. She was telling me about her ex-boyfriend who was literally just sucking the life out of her. He was jobless and he was totally mooching off of her. I personally thought I wouldn’t have the tolerance to let someone mooch off of me as much as her ex has done to her. I couldn’t believe the things she told me. She said that he was lazy and would sit at home all day and basically use her money to buy weed and such. I can’t stand that he even had the nerve to propose to her and she ended up paying the cost of her own engagement ring! I honestly wouldn’t let someone walk over me like that!

  She explained to me she felt so free now that she is out of that relationships but also she means in relationships in general; how it felt so good not to answer or check in with anyone. I can truly relate to that feeling. I know that I haven’t been dating my current boyfriend for that long but there are a couple of things that are on my mind.

  She was telling me about how her mooching boyfriend started off slowly by asking for little things until these things got bigger and bigger. I can see my relationship with my boyfriend headed in this similar direction. He has asked me to buy him food on multiple occasions and “promised promised promised” to pay me back. I am not saying that I am trying to keep track of all the things I buy and he buys for a perfectly even exchange. I feel that this exchange is very lop-sided and very frequent, so I am keeping a close observation on his behavior. I know I should talk to him about it but I really don’t want to. I wonder if I could just subtly hint that asking me for stuff often is not ok.

  I would normally be sympathetic to a situation like this seeing that most of the time he is asking me for just food and nothing unnecessary. I have carefully thought this out and here are my results. I know that quite a considerable amount of my boyfriends income does go to his rent, whereas, I live with my parents making me fairly richer in dispensable income. He does work full time and he spends a lot of money on cigs and weed. Weed, which I read up on, does heavily increase your appetite so it explains the constant need to eat. There are a lot of things that he can do to stretch his income but I am wondering if he is just dumb or does not care.

  The main thing that bothers me is that he always goes out to eat fast food for all his meals at work and quite a significant amount off work aswell. Eating out is quite costly. If you want to be decent (and not grab something off the dollar menu) and slightly upgrade yourself to Jack-in-the-Box (for example) for a regular #1 meal which is a Sirloin Burger, fries and a drink? That generally might cost you 7$ after tax. Since my boyfriend does double-doubles which consist of two sixteen hour shifts, that is four shifts  = 4 meals, which in turn = to 28$ easily. In one month that 28$ easily turns into $112 dollars in one month. If he only bought his food at the grocery store then he can easily save half of that, if not more on his weekend eating expenses.

  Second thing that bothers me is that his gas is almost always close to empty. I guess he does drive a lot to his familiy’s house which is quite a distance from where he lives. Anyways,  I know that the more you keep driving on a tank that is more than just a couple notches empty your just sucking up air causing you to run out of gas sooner. Notice how it takes a lot longer for your gas tank to get from very full to the first big notch of slightly used? In comparison, right after your gas hits the halfway mark it is pretty much empty by the next time you glance at it? Ya… that’s exactly what I am talking about. If he just filled his tank once a week or once every two weeks he would be saving so much money on gas as well.

  Honey, I am a woman who keeps a close eye on my money. I am not greedy, selfish or a inconsiderate money sucking bitch. I am just a smart ass woman who knows how to spend my money and doesn’t like being used.

  You had me
  You lost me
  You’re wasted
  You cost me
  I don’t want you here messing with my mind
  I’ve realized in time
  that my eyes are not blind
  I’ve seen it before
  I’m taking back my life

  ~Joss Stone

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