August 6, 2008
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Long Distance Relationships
So I just saw a tid-bit on Datinigish on Xanga about long distance relationships and I thought I would share my thoughts on the whole thing. I think from my personal experience that long distance relationships are alright. I have had both my in person, always there relationships and the long distance ones too and I have to say it is honestly not that bad, from my point of view.
It seems like the majority of people don’t really know what love exactly is when they sit down and actually think about it. Sometimes don’t know much either but this much I do know. I know that it is infatuation to constantly be around that person you love and always have butterfly feelings and get flustered around them. For some reason people think that is what love is, love isn’t infatuation. Infatuation can be the “kick-start” to love and it is very normal to get infatuated to some.
The smack of reality is, infatuation dies but people think that’s “love” and it dies. That’s when most people usually break up. The love didn’t die at all just the infatuation, so now you are extremely comfortable with the person and the feeling of the unknown is gone. Seriously, think about it. Infatuation isn’t love, because if it was and you’re married to someone and your spouse touched your hand, reaching for the remote at the same time you did, and you are still infatuated. You would be like, oh my goodness, she touched my arm and I feel so in love or something. The kiddy, junior high/high school thing, do you ever see your parents act love struck like that around each other? I don’t think so. So when you’re passed infatuation, this is “mature love”. Your parents can still show love and affection without being flustered and infatuated.
Anyways, if you can’t stand the distance with someone you “love” then you don’t really love them. You’re just really infatuated. There are many situations that people have to be apart and you just have to deal with it, weather it is school, work or whatever, you have to get over it knowing that it can’t be avoided and hope they still love you and aren’t just infatuated or something.
You know the saying, “Time apart makes the heart grow fonder”? Well I actually researched that on what people say about it and what I think about it and it is entirely true. Time apart give lets you to pause for a minute and start to over look things, which is a very good thing. You think over how you think you’re doing in life, how is your relationship doing and is there anything that needs to be worked on. You also start longing for them and start to value their presence more when they are gone.
I am deeply in love with someone far away but I know they love me and I know if they could they would just simply be with me if they could. We are both patient and we are both fairly mature and have mature love, so there is no complaints between the both of us.
Comments (4)
love can be as far as possible.
@CaKaLusa - hah yup
Good entry, very true. I was actually just contemplating the difference between “infatuation” and “love” and how most people can’t tell the difference =]
I do honestly believe that if you truly love someone the distance shouldn’t affect you too much. I’ve never had a long distance relationship though so I can’t talk from personal experience.
@venomxcupcake - Yeah, it’s ok if you don’t have a personal experience but it’s good that you know the difference between infatuation and love. That’s important too!