August 26, 2008
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Stuck Between Two Boyfriend Stages
So I read this page on Xanga’s Datingish which perfectly describes a situation I always get in. I meet a interesting guy, that I kind of like and he doesn’t get far because I find that he doesn’t have the core qualities of a future husband. This situation is confusing as heck because you can’t have both, I don’t think you can. Can’t I meet a guy with a good mix of both? Ah well, I hope.
The thing is about a “bad boy” is that there is instant attraction and it lasts a little while until, you’re like, where is this going to end up? He has no motivation to be successful, he is lazy but you usually love him more than the “good boy”. Now, the “good boy” is amazing because he has everything you look in a potential partner but it’s boring and predictable. Is it that girls really want what they can’t have?
Cathy asked a question, “Would you date a guy you’re in love with but doesn’t value education or a smart guy who you’re not in love with”. Well I do the first one but I really mean the second one. Seriously if a guy cannot value education and have some sort of a drive to do something wonderful, then screw them. I mean that as with my whole heart. Guys without education or guys that don’t value it and just do it to get by, in my experience, hold the most boring conversations ever. It is really stupid because I am there rambling away about my passions in life while they are dead silent and cannot relate in the slightest.
Anyways I think my generally ending conclusion to this problem is, as much as a “bad boy” is wonderful and a thrill to be around. As I said earlier in my Bachelorette entry, they can never bring you security and comfort. Just the thrill and what you think is love in the beginning but it seems like even if I say that, I sometimes get into that situation. I think it’s just a passing phase though. No worries! In the end I want to be with a wonderful guy with his head on straight that loves me. Those are so hard to find though but I will always remain optimistic!
